Bury Me Not

I begin my Sunday watching it rain like cats and dogs….(yeah I know I just stepped in a poodle)……makes for a lazy day…….my granddaughter may stop by and give me the ‘skinny’ on what’s what….

Garden update….my radishes, mixed lettuces and grapes are doing great…..lots of rain and sunshine…..citrus trees in full bloom…..peach and plum trees in bloom also…..has the makings of a good year…..

Bury me not on the lone prairie…..as the song goes……

It appears that Americans are taking the song to heart…..

Visit someone’s home nowadays and you may notice their dead loved one—on a shelf, on the floor, or wherever. “They are in my house,” says Ellen Herman, an LA ad saleswoman, of her deceased parents. “Actually, in my bedroom! In boxes, under a bunch of other shit.” That’s because more Americans are being cremated, a shift that reflects changes in our economic and emotional lives and possibly the environment, Popular Mechanics reports. Back in 1980 only 5% of Americans were cremated; now it’s 50%, partly because the Great Recession drove people away from expensive burials. The crematorium at Rosehill Cemetery in Linden, NJ, for example, is burning 25 bodies daily to keep up with demand and pauses only on Sunday. “We just need a day off,” says the cemetery’s president.

In Rosehill’s crematorium, each body is burned in a brick-lined chamber that’s heated to 1,200 degrees; a second chamber then burns off the gas and particulates before it all goes into the atmosphere. Problems do arise in the cremation business, like loved ones slipping in personal items that explode, such as cell phones or even a coconut, the Bolton News reports. Cremation’s popularity has also aroused concerns about emissions and sparked interest in a water-based post-mortem process. Mourners are encountering new emotions, from relief at avoiding a funeral to pain or comfort in taking the ashes home. Many leave the urns on cemetery grounds, but others love having them. “There is no pressure or guilt of having to visit them in a cemetery,” says a woman who took her parents’ remains home. “And they will stay with me until the end of my time.”

I will be cremated…..no need for family members feeling obligated to visit a grave site and then eventually stop altogether and you become a memory only to the grounds keepers that have to mow around your head stone….not for me.

The family can get together and have a send-off for me……a wake if you like….memories presented and a good time for all and I ask no more after that….I already have my obit written on IST held in drafts…all someone has to do is hit “post” and it is over…painless and quick…..


9 thoughts on “Bury Me Not

  1. I also thought of preparing an obituary in drafts. But I was sure I would hit ‘publish’ by mistake. 🙂

    My Mum’s ashes are in a container in this room, behind me. I bought a marble bird bath in 2012. It has a hollow base, and is designed to contain ashes. My plan was to set it up here in our garden, and put her ashes in it. For some reason, I haven’t managed to be able to do it yet.
    Best wishes, Pete.

    1. Damn it is “publish” huh?

      That is nice thought for your Mum….mine will go to the Sangre De Cristo mountains in New Mexico…..chuq

  2. Having been a licenced Arizona cremationist I have put to torch many a deceased in my five years in the industry. But what’s interesting is how many people in the course of a year would dump off onto our funeral home some unclaimed urn. In other words, a spouse cremates her husband.. then takes the urn home.. puts it on display for a while. Then the spouse dies and the child takes the urn and stores it on the top shelf in some obscure closet. Then the child moves on.. or dies themselves. When the state or the extended family clears out the estate they find the urn tucked away and gets grossed out.. and the urn represents nothing to them. They think they can’t just toss the thing out for some “special” funeral reason, so they bring the urn to a local funeral home for disposition. The funeral home has no need, no facility, no room for storing these unclaimed things. We would attempt to call a family member and toss a little guilt on them to get the urn outta here… but by and large we always had about 20 of these unclaimed things sitting around.
    Lesson: Have your cremated remains tossed into the winds somewhere.

  3. When it comes to cremation or burial, I more or less agree with David Cross (video below)

    Ideally, I’d want my body to put in a chair on my front porch/lawn and left to decay. There’s a private elementary school and lots of day-cares on this block. I want to give those spoiled little brats a life-lesson they’ll never forget. I want them all to know exactly what’s in store for them.

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