Tag: Sex Education

Why “Missionary”?

It is a Summer Sunday and I have tale to tell….and of course a bit of history to brighten your day.

My readers know that I try to explain the mundane….the stuff that few actually think about so I do it for them.

This post begins with me and one of my sessions where I was reading and writing for about 5 hours…..finally about 4 in the morning my eyes were tired and burning so I decided to give them a break….in the background as usual the TV was on some weird ass show (it is on for company not entertainment) and I decided to put my feet up and close my eyes to help them relax….well that eye closure resulted in about a 35 minute snooze and when I awoke there was some cheesy movie on and two guys (bad actors) were arguing about sexual positions….one was sure the best was “Doggie” and the other was arguing that ‘Missionary” was the best….after about 5 minutes of that torture my brain kicked in….I understand the ‘Doggie” thing but where did the “Missionary” originate?

Sue has always said that I need to give my brain a break…..but that seems like a monumental task……but back to the tale…..I decided that as an FYI I would explain the term and educate my readers and hopefully entertain as well….

The term “missionary position” is an anthropological enigma. The most prominent explanation is that it has something to do with prudish Christian missionaries. However, that seems to be a big misunderstanding tied back to one of the most famous sexologists of the 20th century, Alfred Kinsey.

For the uninitiated, the missionary position is a sex position in which the female lies on her back with the male on top, facing one another. 

Other cultures have a variety of inventive terms for this sexual stance. Some Arabic speakers refer to it as “the manner of serpents” while in Brazilian Portuguese, it’s colloquially called posição papai e mamae (literally “daddy and mommy position”). The term missionary position has since been transplanted into other languages, including French (position du missionnaire) and German (Missionarsstellung).

Countless anthropological studies suggest the term “missionary position” relates to the coital pose favored by Christian missionaries in the early modern era. So the story goes, the position was seen as more “decent” compared to more “animalistic” positions. When the missionaries made their unwelcome arrival to distant lands in the colonial era, they attempted to teach Indigenous peoples to have sex in this more righteous and Christian way. 

This retelling of the story appears to stem from the 1948 book Sexual Behavior in the Human Male by Alfred Kinsey, in which he tried to show that the missionary position was not perceived as the default position in most other cultures. 

https://www.iflscience.com/why-is-missionary-position-called-that-its-origin-story-is-a-myth-74860

Now you know and your day will be so much brighter for it.

You know maybe Sue is on to something.

I Read, I Write, You Know

“lego ergo scribo”

Closing Thought–14Mar18

One of the most controversial programs in our schools is sex education…..OMG!  they will teach our children how to have sex?

That is one of the dumbass questions that is asked when the subject of sex education is brought up at a school board meeting…..that is not what the program would be about…..

The program would teach our kids what happens when they have sex…unwanted pregnancy….it would also teach the kids about STDs….safe sex would be the aim of the program….but to some that would be tantamount to teach our children to be prostitutes….

For most of the religious types there is only one acceptable way to have safe sex and with the Trumpian thought process ….the only thing would be abstinence…..

Abstinence-only education — encouraging adolescents to wait until marriage for sex — is making a comeback under President Trump.

In a marked departure from the previous administration, conservatives at the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) are putting an emphasis on abstinence to reduce teen pregnancy rates.

“We definitely are seeing a shift,” said Kelly Marcum, a government affairs legislative assistant at the Family Research Council in Washington, which supports abstinence-only education.

“We’re really excited to see that the administration is giving some tools back to us to keep pushing that fight.”

http://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/377304-abstinence-only-education-making-a-comeback-under-trump

The last time abstinence only program was to the forefront the incidents of anal sex among teens went way up.

My point is that teens have raging hormones and they are going to have sex so why not teach them all about the act….knowledge would go a long way to preventing unwanted pregnancies….

We cannot blame Trump as much as I would like to…..ignorance does more damage…….. many babies are born out of ignorance….besides what is better than sex?

Gotta bounce…..peace out and look for more stuff….chuq

Do YOU Need Sex?

From time to time I try to lighten up the stuff to keep from going completely batshit….and in doing so I usually post of sex thingy…..oh well…today is NO different….

Do YOU need sex?

The short answer is you bet your ass you do…..but with that said….how can we tell if we are approaching critical mass?

First of all,  Times of India is reporting:

Practically, a non-existing sexual life causes a lot of reactions, more or less explicable, and in some extreme cases it can lead to severe physical and philological reactions: skin itches, irritations, anger etc. You could end up hurting the ones beside you, emotionally or even physically, because you did not “read” one of your body’s cries for help.

Once you fully and completely understand your body’s message: “I need sex!” it will be a lot easier for you to identify the time periods these unpleasant symptoms occur. If you manage to do this, you will also be able to prevent them. Of course, these intervals vary from person to person, and they are dependent to certain factors, such as age, sex, lifestyle, physical condition, pregnancy, menopause etc.

All in all, make sure you take some time and really analyze yourself and your body, your needs and your desires, and that way you will manage to understand the course of action you have to take so that everything returns on its’ right normal “path” again.

Oh crap!  But how can I know if there is a need?
Must-have-sex signals
– Excessive nervousness
– Long states of unjustified anxiety, migraines
– Permanent stress
– Lack of food appetite
– Lack of the need to sleep
– Contradictory feelings regarding certain persons
– Frequent sexual fantasies, especially during nighttime.

Check the list…check it twice……

Dammit!  I need to get laid!

Another Teen Sex Study

As usual I try to lighten up the tone on Sundays, a least a bit, we are bombarded daily with the politics of NOW…there are other things happening; just not as covered as the bitch slapping of politics……It’s Sexy Sunday and Franco is still dead!

Tina Jordahl, a former Iowa State HDFS and public policy graduate student who is now a market research specialist with Hospice of Central Iowa, collaborated with Lohman on the study. It analyzes data from the “Welfare, Children and Families: A Three-City Study” — a six-year longitudinal investigation of low-income families living in Boston, Chicago and San Antonio. Their paper, titled “A biological analysis of risk and protective factors associated with early sexual intercourse of young adolescents,” was posted online in the Children and Youth Services Review and will be published in an upcoming issue of the journal.

Interview data for the study was first collected in 1999 on youth between the ages of 10 and 14, and again in 2001. Lohman says she also has data collected in 2006 from the same subjects, who were between 16 and 20 by that time.

In the study, boys reported their first sexual intercourse at younger ages (averaging 12.48) than girls (13.16). Boys also had nearly 10 percent higher frequency of intercourse than girls and were also more likely to experience sexual debut (20 percent to 14 percent) between the two years when the first two waves of data were collected.

Recent national research has found that 13 percent of girls and 15 percent of boys have had sex by the time they’re 16. Lohman says that means the rate of sex among her low-income sample is only slightly higher among the girls, but almost double among the boys

African Americans also had 12 percent more early sexual intercourse than whites (29 to 17 percent respectively), although racial differences did not change the age of their first intercourse.

The authors report that periods of instability in family structure and welfare use serve as risk factors for early sexual activity. They found that additional maternal education — beyond a high school level — was found to inhibit some of that activity.

For that reason, the researchers propose allotting public funding to increase maternal education as a way to reduce early sexual promiscuity among their children.

The study also found the youths’ involvement in delinquent acts drastically increases the chances of early sexual activity.

Because of the gender differences in sexual debut, the authors also urge more gender-specific prevention programs that are implemented at earlier ages, especially among high risk populations.

Study after study on all sexual titles have been done, results tabulated, funds allocated and yet we as a nation cannot figure out how to education the kids on what is good and what is bad with sex.  Parents are shy about the talk, government is just plain stupid about the subject and worst of all funds a squandered on programs that are totally ineffective…..and the beat goes on…..what will be the next great program to teach the children?

A Party To Believe In

The Liberal Lion is buried…….the yahoos in Congress are having their little meetings…..Washington is semi-quiet……the hot weather has little competition from the hot air coming from politicians…..with all that said it is a Sexy Sunday…..

World politics has taken a turn for the better with the introduction of a main stream political party that takes sex seriously, the Australian ‘Sex Party’.

The Sex Party is responding to gender inequalities in politics, antiquated and ad hoc laws around sexuality and sexual expression, and political hypocrisy around sex.

While Australian politicians are supportive of the need for law reform they are not prepared to risk losing votes by supporting the Sex Party’s agenda. With Prime Minister, Kevin Rudd, set to address the Christian Lobby’s National Conference in November you can see that family values votes are a valuable commodity in Australia.

How does one become so passionate about sexual rights that they make it their mission to get sex into parliament. Patten’s history is as interesting as the party itself, she began with a successful fashion business. Many of the clients were sex workers and this led her into the sex industry and on to run for election on a sex industry platform in the Canberra local body elections. Her unlikely bedfellows in the elections were a Monk and a disgraced former Government Minister, all united in their belief in an individual’s right to choose. She then went to a career as lobbyist and President of Australia’s adult goods industry organisation, The Eros Association which is involved in running Australia’s highly successful Sexpo’s . Patton has had a history of making sexual politics visible.

I would vote for Fiona Patten. It’s time that sex policy reflected reality. Attitudes towards sex have changed a lot in my life time. Sex was for marriage, masturbation was best not talked about and homosexuality was illegal. I remember the homosexual law reform protests at Christchurch’s Cathedral Square in the 1980’s and my father’ attractive pant-suit wearing female boss lived with her ‘very good friend ‘. Now-a-days we won’t go blind if we masturbate and a lifetime spent only having sex with one person is no longer the norm. But if we want things to continue to change we need to consider how law change might improve our sex lives.

I was not that impressed with Australia when I was there many years ago, but they do have some good ideas….from time to time……A Sex Party…..political not an orgy…..now there is an idea worth considering.

The Sex Academy

Now here is an idea from a story by Reuters:

Wannabe Latin lovers can improve their technique by playing with the erogenous zones of naked mannequins at a new interactive exhibition that has now opened in Berlin.The “Amora sex academy” that opened in Berlin on Thursday welcomes visitors with the wry slogan, “Finally — an exhibition for those who always have to touch everything.”

More than 50 interactive displays guide visitors through the intimate areas of the male and female bodies, offering helpful tips on everything from striptease to oral sex and how to achieve a perfect orgasm.

“A lot of couples come in here together to learn something,” said Uta Barkow, the manager of the Beate Uhse sex chain which is hosting the academy. “It’s been very well received so far. A lot of exhibits have that ‘aha’ effect on a lot of people.”

The show features several life-sized plastic models, naked and in various positions. One female mannequin light ups when touched in the right spot. A voice shrieks “That’s it!” when the visitor manages to put his finger on the elusive G-spot.

Next to it is what the museum called its “Spank-o-meter.” It measures the level of pleasure a mannequin receives when spanked with a leather whip.

“So far we’ve had just as many women in here as men,” Barkow said. “Women coming in tend to have fewer inhibitions while the men tend to be a bit more embarassed.”

The museum also shows film clips of various sexual positions, including the “Italian chandelier” that the viewer learns can burn up to 920 calories per hour.

Founded by Frenchman Johan Rizki, the sex academy opened in London earlier this year and is also due to come to Barcelona.

Coming to America?

Sex Ed Misinforms

It is Sunday….It is SEX!

The report is authored by Texas State University professors David Wiley and Kelly Wilson, who submitted open records requests to Texas’ 1,031 school districts (not including charter schools) for textbooks, curricula and other documents related to sexuality education. Wiley and Wilson said 990 districts, 96 percent, responded.

In the report, the researchers say:

“More than 3.7 million Texas students currently attend school in a district where they will not encounter even the most basic information about how to protect themselves from unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. … The size and location of a school district does affect the likelihood a student will encounter more comprehensive information (abstinence-plus). Students in large, urban districts still largely hear an abstinence-only message, but close to one in five districts include more comprehensive information. That is a substantially higher rate of abstinence-plus education than the state average. Compare that to rural areas, where we did not find a single instance of any information beyond abstinence among the state’s smallest districts. Worse still, 16 percent of these small, rural districts forgo sexuality education altogether.”

“If lawmakers intended [School Health Advisory Councils] to ensure appropriate content and instruction in the classroom, data gathered for this report would indicate that this experiment in local control must be judged a failure. … More than three-quarters of Texas school boards passed policies, adopted curricula and contracted with providers without any formal advice from their local SHACs. Almost a quarter (24.8 percent) of districts reported no formal policy at all governing sexuality education. Teachers in these schools must address the sensitive topics surrounding human sexuality with no guidance — or protection — from a policy adopted by the local school board.”

“A common thread running throughout materials submitted by most districts is the use of fear- and shame-based instruction about sex. … The state’s most widely used vendor-produced curriculum, Scott & White Worth the Wait, which is used in 17 percent of Texas school districts, is fairly typical in warning students that premarital sexual activity leads to depression, suicide and divorce later in life.”

How About Those Sexy Nursing Homes?

When Kansas State University sent researchers into nursing homes to find out how the topic of sex was being addressed, they initially found silence.

In response, the researchers have produced seminars and training aids to encourage nursing home caregivers to discuss and accommodate sexual desires.

The effort brings Kansas into a national discussion that advocates say will only grow as baby boomers age and take their beliefs about sexual freedom and civil rights into the nation’s nursing homes.

the training focuses on explaining what sexuality means for older adults, identifying barriers to fulfilling the sexual needs, finding strategies to help residents and how to discern appropriate from inappropriate sexual behaviors.

Solutions can be as simple as providing “do not disturb” signs or making sure staffers don’t barge into residents’ rooms without knocking. Claassen said her nursing home provides a discreet room for residents and has staff work through possible scenarios they may encounter.

Sometimes, it’s as simple as arranging a bed for someone who needs physical therapy in a way that also allows that patient to be with his or her companion

Sexuality doesn’t always mean intercourse. Many lonely or depressed residents are simply looking for ways to relieve loneliness and depression, Doll said.

For example, she told of one resident who had asked for pornography but dropped the request when the staff started spending more time with him.

Old farts need sex too….

Yet Another Sex Survey

Although teens seem to prefer peer-led sex education classes over teacher-led classes, they may not be any more effective at reducing abortions.

Researchers at the University College London conducted a study called the RIPPLE (Randomized Intervention of Pupil-led Sex Education) to evaluate whether the teaching of sexual health information by people of a similar age was effective in terms of reducing teenage abortion, pregnancy and improving sexual health among teenagers. The RIPPLE study formed because of a government initiative in the United Kingdom, a country with one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in Western Europe, to reduce pregnancies by half among 18-year-olds by 2010.

Twenty-seven schools and about 9,000 students age 13 to 14 participated. Each school was randomly assigned to either conduct peer-led or teacher-led sex education classes. Early results showed at age 16, girls who received the peer-led classes reported fewer unintended pregnancies, although the results were only marginally significant in comparison to the peer-led group. By age 20 years, there was no difference between the peer-led and teacher-led groups in terms of number of girls who had abortions. There were also no differences for male or female participants in both groups in terms of other aspects of sexual health.

Given that students reported preferring the peer-led classes, a more extended program is needed to establish whether they can have a more positive effect on teenage pregnancy rates.

Turn Your Hoo-Hoo Into a Vice

Ironically, the muscles that are not on display often get ignored in our fitness routines, yet they play such a vital role in the functions that affect our overall sense of well being as women! Hello! Sex. Controlling your bladder. Important things, right?

Any muscles that can keep you from peeing your pants and also give you more and better orgasms are not muscles you want to ignore, ladies! In fact, they deserve to be high on your fitness priority list every week, if not every day!  I’m talking about your pelvic floor muscles. These are the muscles that take a beating through childbirth, and the ones you use to stop the flow of urine mid-stream. They must be trained with the same dedication you have toward your pecs and glutes!

All you have to do is tighten and release as you would if you were stopping the flow of pee, but don’t use your toilet time for this exercise, as it might cause a bladder infection. It is best to do a mix of kegel types which include:

1. Contracting and holding for a count of five or ten, and then releasing – Slow Sallys

2. Quickly contracting and releasing repeatedly, doing sets of five or ten, and working up to higher numbers of reps just as you would with your dumbbell routine – Rapid Rhondas

3. Flexing with sets of up and down movement, and side to side movement. (YES, it is possible). These are more advanced so you may need to start with very few reps. – Wild Wandas

Exercises:

1) Anywhere. Anytime. A conversation with someone gets boring, smile and nod while you tighten your ticklers. Your long commute to work is taking too long, squeeze away. The line at the coffee shop is five deep, you can go “five deep” too, while you wait! Play a game. One kegel flex for every person ahead of you. They’ll never know they are part of your new exercise program; it’ll be your own little secret.

2) By doing them during marathon sex (or sprint versions, for that matter) it can help you cross the finish line.

3) Doing them regularly as well as during sex can make an upper case vowel out of a lower case. Think “BIG O” (intensity). Think caps lock on the keyboard (multiples). Think Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally, except for real. Think……well, don’t think. Just do!

4) Doing them outside of sex and/or during sex can increase pleasure for your man. (It’s not all about us, after all.)

5) Performing kegels consistently can give your sex life longevity, and aid you and your partner in having an enduring, passionate love life into old age.

6) Kegels will prevent you from soiling yourself at inopportune times. (Not that there’s ever really a good time for that).

7)  BONUS – On any given day you can substitute your kegel sets with sex, because sex strengthens pelvic floor muscles too!

Suzy’s Pelvic Floor Muscle Training Schedule For Beginners

1. Alarm clock rings – Laying in bed, do one set of 10 Slow Sallys and one set of 10 Rapid Rhondas.

2. Drive the kids to school or yourself to work – Seated in car, do three sets of 10 Rapid Rhondas spaced out over your drive.

3. At work listening to workmate gossip about Brad and Angelina as if she knows them – Pretend to listen while attempting one set of Wild Wanda combos – 3 reps of up and down, 3 reps of side to side. (Do more if you can)

4. Drive home from work – Seated in car, do 5 sets of 5 reps each, of Slow Sallys spaced out over your drive

5. Cooking dinner – Standing at stove – 1 set of 20 Rapid Rhondas

6. Have sex – with your mate if you have one, with yourself if you don’t – Any position you want – 1 amazing orgasm – or more if you can.

Ok Guys, you can thank me later—and I do accept cash……