If you’ve never heard of “cake parties,” think harnesses are just for horses and can’t really discuss the merits of silicone versus rubber, then chances are you’re not “sex positive.”
Being sex positive doesn’t mean that you’re positive you want to have sex — it means you have what is perceived as a healthy attitude toward your sexuality.
You might be vanilla in your straight, bisexual, homosexual or transgender sex life without polyamorous, open or fetishistic complications. But you at least know a thing or two about these things, aren’t afraid to talk about them, and you definitely know what you like.
This quieter, more educated version of the sexual revolution isn’t a phenomenon born on the couch of a therapist or at the counter of a sex shop — it’s also a pop culture phenomenon. Think of prim ‘n’ proper Charlotte on “Sex in the City” becoming addicted to her vibrator (and her friend Samantha, the Energizer Bunny of Manhattan’s sex scene). Or MTV fave Missy Elliott and fringe, post-feminist rapper Peaches, who rap about female sexual fulfillment as a right.
And the acceptance of porn — at least certain types of it — seems to be a part of this sex-positive thing — or so we heard when we attended a workshop at Toys in Babeland last month. The sessions, held at the Capitol Hill store, generally fill up fast, with tickets going for about $30 a class. On the night we attended, there was a full house — about 30 students, mostly female, with six or seven males. We’ll skip the details, but say this much: The two instructors were funny, personable, well informed and approachable. Action and apparatus were discussed without being gratuitously crude or clinical. It’s a fine line, you understand.
Oh I didn’t realize you lived in the Seattle area. My sister lives there too. I should’ve sent her to the Toys in Babeland workshop. Those seminars are great, aren’t they? There’s a whole world of sex out there that most people are so afraid and unaware of.
So true….I do not know why anyone would be afraid of sex….makes one smile….I do not live in Seattle…I went to college there but I live in a cultural wasteland known as Mississippi.
Aaah, yes, Mississippi. A cultural wasteland… I’d hate to say it, but it seems all too true…
Girl, you have no idea….at least I am on the Coast where it is a little more Progressive…..I always wanted to put a sign on the northern border of the county I live in saying “Now entering Stone County set your watch back 150 years.”
LOL yes it does seem like it’s like traveling back in time, doesn’t it!
Oh yeah…during the election in one neighborjhood you could tell where the dividing line was by the political signs…white—mccain—black–obama…..people only think things have changed in the deep south…they have not…still lots of rebel flags on flagpoles and pro-confederate bumperstickers…..confuses me….they of proud of losing a war…that is just ignorant, imo.
Yes, that’s really sad that they’re still flying Confed flags and such. You’d think they’d get over it by now!
So true–but we are talking about an area that has the collective IQ of a turnip.