Age Of Shaming

WARNING:  This post is a real thing and may be more than some readers want to know….please if talk about the human body disturbs you then this post is not for you.

These days shaming has become an art form…..especially since the invention of social media…..people are shamed for a wide array of issues……like weight, height, fashion, intelligence, etc……but I have to admit that there is one form of shaming I had not heard of or considered…..vaginal shaming.

I admit that I am not an expert by any stretch of the imagination and had to do what I always do….go to the internet…..

So in the spirit of FYI I share what I found……

After I first heard of the concept of “vaginal shame,” I found myself flipping through an educational (read: not sexual) slideshow called The Labia Library. It’s exactly what it sounds like—a collection of close-up photos of labias belonging to various women, which made me realize that I’m a cisgender heterosexual woman in her 30s who doesn’t understand the vast diversity of human female anatomy. “Your experience isn’t uncommon,” gynecologist Jen Gunter, MD, assures me.

Many women typically see so few vaginas in their lifetimes that aren’t in porn—where the preferred aesthetic is decidedly narrow—that they’re often vulnerable to suggestions from their male partners around what’s “normal,” or, more critically for a woman’s self-esteem, “not normal.” “I see so few gay women who are vulnerable to [vaginal shame]—in fact, I can remember just one—simply because they see all kinds of vaginas and vulvas,” says Dr. Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible. “And gay women don’t get that horrible destructive messaging of, ‘You’re not wet enough,’ or ‘What do you mean you can’t orgasm with just my penis?’ And so on, that so many straight women do from heterosexual men.”

Vaginal Shame Is Real—so Here’s a Much-Needed Reality Check


Vulva Shaming & Vagina shaming – for real? We need confidence!

This is not the first time that I tried to bring this ‘shaming’ technique to my readers…..

I admit as a male I can understand the concern that can be generated….I mean we males have always worried about our penis….but that was in the days before social media.

How does this sort of shaming begin?  Are pics shared and the shaming begins?  If so why would anyone share such photos?

This post is not suppose to be flippant in any way….the shaming is real….and should be a concern… sole purpose was FYI and nothing else…..

I Read, I Write, You Know

“lego ergo scribo”


25 thoughts on “Age Of Shaming

  1. Da hell?? 🙄 … as a gay woman, senior citizen, retired physician – who has seen plenty of them!! Da hell? … 🙄 … love the ‘bombing Labia comment, BTW!!

  2. I have seen this reported here. Once again, social media seems to have decided on what is the ‘perfect vagina’. That is usually devoid of pubic hair, and has a ‘neat’ appearance. Women with larger vaginas are told they have ‘beef curtains’, and ‘bald-head bulging mounds’. If they have a lot of inner folds, they are told that they have ‘messy vaginas’, or ‘butterfly-wing vaginas’. Small wonder they are depressed! I have no idea when this started. In the late 1960s, if I got to see one, or even touch one, I couldn’t have cared less whether it was hairy or not, or what it looked like!
    Best wishes, Pete.

  3. I also love the “bombing labia comment”. Honestly, it may be a serious problem to some women, but do we really have no other problems??? Thanks for the information, Chuq! This civilisation is made for a reset. Lets hope it will be a good one. Enjoy a beautiful weekend! xx Michael

  4. I am not the least bit ashamed of my penis and I could care less about women and their labias because I have had my share of sex over the years and have raised three sons to adulthood and right now I don’t care if I ever see another woman again because these days you dare not even to speak to them because of the risk of being accused of sexual assault or something. My “Bitch Chasing” days have concluded forever.

      1. I’ve not ever viewed John’s penis so I don’t know if I would be ashamed of it or not. Can’t help ya there. There was a time that mine stood steadfast and at the ready, but alas, the blue pill prevails (if there were ever a need to take it). As close as I ever got to John’s “bitch chasing” days was more or less “skirting” days for me. All I know is that the older I get the younger I like ’em. But few actually require a “grandpa” image.
        One thing about growing old.. when you grab a girl when you are in your 30’s or 40’s you might get slapped across the face.. or these days get charged with a sexual crime. Now that I have reached my 70’s I can get away with it as being “cute”.

        I am curious though, how did we get on this subject?

  5. Chuq… out of basic at Lackland I went right to electronics tech school at Keesler in March, 1971. My training squadron was the 3399th. Got some Super 8 on the beach in Biloxi during one of those shrimp boat parades. I know you live near there… were you there in ’71?

    1. Nope I was aboard I believe Moscow on that day…..the Coast is very different than the ‘old days’….I miss those days for the Coast was a great place. chuq

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