WARNING: This post is a real thing and may be more than some readers want to know….please if talk about the human body disturbs you then this post is not for you.
These days shaming has become an art form…..especially since the invention of social media…..people are shamed for a wide array of issues……like weight, height, fashion, intelligence, etc……but I have to admit that there is one form of shaming I had not heard of or considered…..vaginal shaming.
I admit that I am not an expert by any stretch of the imagination and had to do what I always do….go to the internet…..
So in the spirit of FYI I share what I found……
After I first heard of the concept of “vaginal shame,” I found myself flipping through an educational (read: not sexual) slideshow called The Labia Library. It’s exactly what it sounds like—a collection of close-up photos of labias belonging to various women, which made me realize that I’m a cisgender heterosexual woman in her 30s who doesn’t understand the vast diversity of human female anatomy. “Your experience isn’t uncommon,” gynecologist Jen Gunter, MD, assures me.
Many women typically see so few vaginas in their lifetimes that aren’t in porn—where the preferred aesthetic is decidedly narrow—that they’re often vulnerable to suggestions from their male partners around what’s “normal,” or, more critically for a woman’s self-esteem, “not normal.” “I see so few gay women who are vulnerable to [vaginal shame]—in fact, I can remember just one—simply because they see all kinds of vaginas and vulvas,” says Dr. Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible. “And gay women don’t get that horrible destructive messaging of, ‘You’re not wet enough,’ or ‘What do you mean you can’t orgasm with just my penis?’ And so on, that so many straight women do from heterosexual men.”
This is not the first time that I tried to bring this ‘shaming’ technique to my readers…..https://lobotero.com/2016/04/30/lips-are-more-like-a-rose-petal/
I admit as a male I can understand the concern that can be generated….I mean we males have always worried about our penis….but that was in the days before social media.
How does this sort of shaming begin? Are pics shared and the shaming begins? If so why would anyone share such photos?
This post is not suppose to be flippant in any way….the shaming is real….and should be a concern…..my sole purpose was FYI and nothing else…..
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