Today would have been Sue’s 70th birthday.
This has been the most difficult post to write….I find myself at a loss of words for this good-bye.
I have a difficult time putting into words just what Sue means to me.
On the night of 12 March 2025 my partner, Sue, passed away from cancer. She had been fighting aggressive skin cancer for 5 years and it finally took its toll.
We had been partners for 18 years, we found each other late in life and it was a magical moment….we found that we had so much in common that we were drawn together immediately.
We were both veterans….she was Navy and I Army our military jobs were very similar….we both had disastrous encounters with the opposite sex….we both enjoyed a simpler way of life.
It was a great 18 years we traveled and lived life to the brink…..I was very happy more so than I had ever been in any other relationship I had up to that point.
Our first date was in a tavern called Skeeters where we spent about 5 hours talking, eating and just getting to know each other….although at first she let me talk way too much as I was very nervous at first.
We found out that we enjoyed many of the same things like peanut butter, she liked smooth I liked crunchy and cheese different types although she did not like what she called stinky cheese.
We spent the next days IMing (those were the days before smartphones or texting) each other in the early morning hours before she had to get ready for work.
After a couple of weeks of dating we decided that we would like to try being exclusive and that worked well. She eventually sold her house and moved in with me and we never looked back……18 years of joy and love.
After all those years it seemed if we could read each minds for many of our thoughts were insych. We both did not deal with idiots lightly……I was the vocal one and she was there to keep me in line and avoid some sort of confrontation….I miss that.
We never let a day go by without saying ‘I love you’….I miss that.
Sue would do anything for anybody that needed help which I could not do for I am a suspicious person deep down.
Although she has been gone for over 6 months I still cannot reconcile that she has left….I still look for her in her favorite spots in the house and I find myself talking to her on occasion.
It has been difficult at times without her around to keep me from being an ass…..my daughter who Sue loved like her own is missing her as much as I….we console each other when necessary.
My words are feeble to express my admiration, respect, love for the woman that became my rock in trying times.
I just want to say ‘Happy Birthday’ my love and we miss you so very much.
These are the three songs that Sue loved….I cannot listen to them right now without getting misty…..enjoy.
Thanks for reading and this will be my only post today for I need the day.
chuq
Sue was taken too soon, and you have given her a wonderful personal tribute here my friend. I think later life relationships are the best, as we have already made most of our mistakes and come to know what we like and what we need from a partner. You two were obviously perfect for each other, and the hurt you feel now will eventually transition into wonderful daily memories to be cherished.
Best wishes as always, Pete.
THanx for the kind words….she will be eternally missed and loved. chuq
A beautiful life together….beautifully described…and I am so very sorry for your heart-rending loss …but know this, in many ways she will always be with you. Those lovely memories can never be stilled.
John appreciate the words of encouragement and yes she will always be a part of what is left of my life. chuq
My commiserations on your loss. It will stay with you for years and the memories will always be there to comfort you. Be glad of it but not be afraid of moving on if the opportunity arises. Hugs
Thank you she was a huge part of my later life and will be hard to move past the loss. chuq
Thank you for sharing. I am moved, as I feel Sue must be…
Nan she deserved a better post but I had a hard time with this one….thank you for your words of support chuq
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Somewhere out there, Sue is enjoying this tribute.
She is probably telling me to slow down and to stop being so morbid….that is just her and I miss that chuq
Hi there, sweet friend … tight hug for you and Sue!! Even not here physically, she’s here with you forever … as long as you remember her.
“Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.” … Geroge Elliot!!
I appreciate your support….and she will forever hold my thoughts….she is a hard woman to forget. Thanx chuq
Most welcome … from the heart!! 🙏🏽
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I can understand what you’re going through. I was with my father when he passed away. I was home for the weekend and was helping him with chores. He was moving the truck out from under a tree because a storm was coming and he was afraid branches would fall on it, and I was standing there by the tree. He stopped the truck, started to get out, and I caught him as he collapsed. I was still doing CPR on him when the ambulance got there but there was nothing anyone could do. Massive heart attack they told us at the hospital. Nothing I could have done would have helped him but it was a long time before I finally stopped blaming myself for not doing enough.
The pain of losing a loved one never really goes away, but it does get easier to bear with time. So hang in there, my friend. We’re all pulling for you.
GF I appreciate your words of encouragement…..I know this will get easier but sometimes I hope it does not….sounds crazy but it is how I feel. Thanx again chuq